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Thursday 6 January 2011

Mr Right

2011 – A new decade, a new start, a new story.


I know you’ve probably read many stories from men but particularly women about finding the ‘one’. In some cases great outcomes, in others not so great. With fewer people tying the knot less people are getting divorced.

So I guess the question that comes to mind and heart is: ‘How do you know?’


I’ve asked people this question so many times and the answer I get over and over is – ‘you just know’. That’s great, but HOW do you know? Do you feel something, you know, what is it? Is it the first kiss that tells all? Again I’m left confused with – ‘you just know’. People in love are really confusing!

So I guess being in my mid 20’s the pressure is on to find ‘Mr Right’, aunts asking at every possible moment – ‘Are you looking? Your biological clock is ticking; you need to spend some time getting to know one another etc. (Thanks!) ‘We will spread the word and start looking’, as if you were some kind of disease that needs a cure! The cure being a man or in a man’s case, a woman.

The truth is what are we ACTUALLY looking for in the opposite sex? Someone who is educated with a degree, drives a nice car, good-looking, has a well paid job, a nice-ish personality and ambition? Or are you the kind looking for someone who will provide for the family, no matter what job it is, has a great personality, but is happy enjoying life more than earning lots of money. Why not the combination of both you ask? Well, if there is a combination of both – it’s damn rare and I certainly have not come across someone like that!

So far I have come across guys from different walks of life, but one thing in common – ambitious but love the opposite sex a bit TOO much, of course there is the exception of one or two where they care about you, but don’t want to commit. So what is one to do?!

The truth is what we want, we don’t always need, and what we need, we don’t always want. What is the point in being with someone who is constantly working, bringing in the money, but has no time for love? Or do you want to be with someone who has no ambition, a semi-good job, and has time for love?


From this you have probably gathered it’s a confusing time in life not just for me but a lot of the singletons. We can meet great people click and all those great things, but the nitty gritty of what kind of job you have, what your ambitions are, what your goals are, what caste you are etc all kick in. – Are we too consumed by material things? Why can’t it be just as simple as L.O.V.E?


Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without. - Dr. James C. Dobson.